I hear you. That’s a tough place to be in. Continue to save $, ignore stepdad tude, move to EU.He’s an asshole and a loud one, pretty hard to ignore him. Been trying as long as I’ve known him tbh. And the moving thing…I really don’t know. Sweden is definitely better but I can’t deal with cold (I live in California and am freezing!) and the whole language and culture is such a big change. Obviously it would be a big change for him but my boyfriend is already fluent in English so that’s like the biggest difficulty already overcome for him. I want the California weather with all the benefits of Sweden, and my family close and I can’t have those all at once crey.
i gave you my pon
but the very next day
you gave it a wei
Been waiting all year to reblog this.
I hate that no matter how good I try to be, it’s never right. I get screwed or I get yelled at. I get yelled at for things that aren’t my fault. I get yelled at for being a good person. I try to help others and it hurts me in the end. I get yelled at for not doing things I was told not to do, or for doing things I was told to do.
I’m out $1500 trying to take care of my roommates.
I live with my mom and stepdad, and I told them Zi was willing to pay rent and they declined, stating they wanted me to save my money. However, just about every opportunity they get, like if I ask my stepdad not to eat the food I bought for myself, he’ll bring up that I don’t pay rent.
I’m sponsoring a family for the holidays and my stepdad is mad at me for doing it because he feels my work is forcing the responsibility of gifting a family by myself when I made the choice. He’s also upset and calling it a scam because the gift dropoff is in SF, near my work headquarters, but 2 hours from my worksite.
The bathroom shower has been broken since before I moved back, and they asked me to let them know if anything else was wrong in there. When I let them know about water on the floor, my stepdad flipped his shit and yelled to my mom about how it’s my fault that the house is falling apart.
Not to mention the guilt I receive constantly. My boyfriend is planning to make a huge sacrifice and move here, but in order to do so, we would have to get married and I would have to request to bring my spouse to the U.S., and I told him I’m not ready for marriage. I also asked if he was certain that he wanted to do this, and he said if we were to be together, he would have to and that now was the best time since he doesn’t need to quit a job or end a lease.
I mentioned that if we were to start a family, Sweden would be the best place but that my family was constantly asking me not to move and didn’t seem to consider his parents feel the same way. Being my mom and dad’s only child and with my dad’s recent cancer, plus my stepbrother soon graduating and leaving for college, my parents are saying that I’m all they have left and they don’t want me to leave.
And bringing this all up to my boyfriend makes him feel bad that he can’t give me a normal relationship and me feel bad for making him feel that way. I love my family and he loves his and we love each other and it sucks that we can’t just all get what we want and be happy and normal.